“There are only four kinds of people in the world: Those who have been caregivers, those
who are currently caregivers, those who will be caregivers, and those who will need a caregiver.”
– Rosalyn Carter, Former President Jimmy Carter’s wife-
One of the most fundamental gifts in life is to be a caregiver, whether for your child, your spouse, your parents, or someone unrelated; it is life-changing.
As a young girl in college, home for the summer, I helped my grandmother get up during the night. Then later, I supported my husband, who experienced mental health problems.
More recently, I watched my sister care for her husband, who had ALSP, a rare form of dementia.
I understand the dynamic of being in a relationship and needing to help someone.
Here are some tips:
Have patience and take a deep breath
Example: Stay calm; it’s contagious
Have faith and connect with resources
Example: First Call for Help, dial 211, get counseling, see your minister
Trust others to help your loved one
Example: Find people with similar problems, join a support group, online or in person
Communicate your loved ones’ needs to a health provider
Example: Call your doctor’s nurse to ask questions, set up an appointment for your loved one
Be creative and flexible; remember, life is unpredictable
Example: Be persistent, find another way
Be investigative, take notes, and research online
Example: Find help with online searches or at the library
Take care so that you continue being a great caregiver
Example: Ease your load, take time off to do something you love
Published November 2022, Village Without Walls Newsletter
